Love as the missing Key to Biblical Support that Works

Agape love is Divine love, the better way.I have previously written on the issue of support  in the Church and I am writing about it again because I feel that this is a very important if not crucial ingredient currently missing in the Body of Messiah.  The concept of support (to bear all or part of the weight of; hold up) is built around the idea that there are others who are (currently) stronger and weaker whether physically, psychologically or spiritually.  It understands that we are not all the same, our purposes and roles vary and our strengths do too, we are not supposed to be self-sufficient because this is in a sense self-idolatry, God has given us a new way and that way is love (1 Cor. 12: 31).

The following scripture comes to my mind:

That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have the same care one for another.  And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it.

1 Corinthians 12: 25-26

When I first fell ill, many people in the church community where quick to let me know that I needed more faith and that my lack of faith was the reason for my health problems.  I became tired and frustrated on hearing these words not based on their rightness but because they offered no practical advice or support but felt happy instead to glorify over the fact that they were ‘well’ and I was not.  Most people don’t even realise their complete lack of empathy for others because they have:

a) not been through that particular valley and

b) have not yet learnt the way of love.

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.

1 John 4:7

Love is the key to providing true support and care for one another, it is the basis for all 613 of the biblical commandments and the very epitome of who God is.  You might think that you know how to love but the truth is that we don’t, we have to learn how to love through submission to the Holy Spirit.  If we knew how to love and practiced and walked love daily we wouldn’t have scriptures like the above or the following:

And so faith, hope, love abide [faith—conviction and belief respecting man’s relation to God and divine things; hope—joyful and confident expectation of eternal salvation; love—true affection for God and man, growing out of God’s love for and in us], these three; but the greatest of these is love. Eagerly pursue and seek to acquire [this] love [make it your aim, your great quest]…

1 Corinthians 13: 13 – 14: 1

It is true love for another that causes us to extend our arm out to those who are weak around us, it is this love which kindles a passion to share hidden truths and gems (prophetical revelation of God’s will and word) which will deliver others from a state of captivity and weakness, this is what I needed when I first fell ill and this is what many people still need today.  I have not been fully healed yet but God has healed my spirit and is a long way into restoring and renewing my soul, the last leg which is behavioural and physical is an area where I again need support but struggle to find it in the Body of Messiah.  What option does that leave for me and others on the healing journey?  Some who are not yet strong enough may turn to the world whilst others continue to go it alone!

kindness, caring, loveThere are many people doing things for the Body of Messiah today particularly in the realm of health and well-being, I am grateful for these people but nevertheless I also feel that that our inability to fully experience and show Divine love makes us more prone to keep ourselves to ourselves.  We have a mentality which says, “I can’t mix, mingle or share with others in case they take or steal my ideas, my work, my knowledge, understanding, wisdom or revelation!”  I am not finger pointing and even if I was, I have been here myself and still struggle against that mentality that holds onto everything with clenched fists and sharp knuckles.  Isn’t this fear that makes us do so?  But God’s Word says:

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear is by suspicion, but he who fears is not grown up in love.

1 John 4: 18

We are not meant to walk through this journey alone without help and support from one another, you may feel that your spiritual leader/elder is equipped to deal with all your worries and problems, but they are not!  Even the most anointed leader can’t handle all the cares of those under him, Moses learnt this at cost to himself and many spiritual leaders are falling (no collapsing) under the strain and demand to be perfect and know it all.  We are all responsible for one another and for ourselves.  God showed His plan for His people in Ancient Israel, they were a community, a family that were given laws and commandments with love at it’s core.  Although there are some laws which don’t seem to make sense in our cultural context examine them all and see whether you cannot see God’s will for us to love and serve Him and each other fully and from the heart enshrined within it!

We need one another, even if God gave me the keys to all spiritual wisdom on health, well-being and healing I could not support God’s people alone!  This requires more than one person to carry a heavy load or the person doing the carrying will fall, the Messiah was the only one equipped to carry the weight of humanity but He has left us with the commandment to love, love God of course, but to love ourselves and love one another.  Love is the key to all healing.  When we learn to love Divinely then our healing and blessing will be complete.

So let me leave you with a question to meditate upon,  how can you love yourself better and how can you better love others today?  I believe that as the Spirit of God is in you, you already know the answers to these questions at a elemental and fundamental level – honesty is always best, it has worked wonders for me on this healing journey.  (Look!  I feel much better after writing this blog post already).


Call out

I am looking for others with a heart and a calling to love, encourage and support others on their healing journey.  All revelation, knowledge, wisdom, gifts and talents that we have all come from God they do not belong to us, our job is to help continue in the work that He left us to do, not hold it behind our backs just in case someone takes it from us.  More and more I am convinced that this is linked to the parable of the talents!  If you wish to support this website/ministry with your knowledge and giftings please feel free to contact me, working as One we can be the difference.

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  1. says

    This is an excellent call to love, Florence. I cringed when you said people told you that you just needed more faith. Job had faith and had everything taken away from him. Daniel had faith and was thrown to the lions. Noah had faith and lost everything to a Flood. Jeremiah had faith and was thrown into a dungeon. I could go on, but I think the point is made. Faith we certainly need, but it’s not what saves us. Only God does that.

    In the story of Job we learn that God allows some things to befall us. In that sense, He “does” them to us. I love this quote: “The fact that we are called upon to endure trial shows that the Lord Jesus sees in us something precious which He desires to develop. If He saw in us nothing whereby He might glorify His name, He would not spend time in refining us. He does not cast worthless stones into His furnace. It is valuable ore that He refines.”

    • says

      Hi Pastor Sherry, yes the Bible teaches us over and over again that God disciplines those who HE loves and considers to be His children. But like any good parent He also offers us an abundance of comfort along the journey of Divine transformation.

  2. Mel Thompson says

    Great job of discussing an area that is often missing in the churches today. When people say, “you just need more faith…”, it’s because it sounds more ‘religious’ that giving them a hug of assurance and comfort. When JESUS said, “love your neighbor…as yourself” there becomes a ‘first things first’ scenario. If you don’t or can’t love yourself first, then it becomes overwhelming to love your neighbor.

  3. says

    I agree with you Florence. If we all truly knew how to love the way Jesus commanded us to, we wouldn’t have nearly as many people committing suicide, becoming depressed, and having psychotic breakdowns. I like how you said “we are not supposed to be self-sufficient because this is in a sense self-idolatry”. I never thought of it that way before, but you are absolutely right! If I think I’m so capable of looking after myself, then why would I need anyone else?I have been studying on the fruit of the Spirit and when it came to the spirit of Love, I had to admit that sadly I have much to learn.
    Thank you for tackling a sensitive topic with so much love.

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